Saturdate & Flying Kicks

September 30, 2013


I don't think I'll ever tire of photographs of nice shoes. The pair above are from an annual Vans sample sale to replace some of Patricio's old pairs that were being held together with shoe goo (the curse of having a skateboarding husband). The pair of knock-off chucks (given to him by a brother) he was wearing to the sale finally gave up the ghost by splitting in two at the heel. Perfect timing.

This is Patricio's third pair of canvas Rata Vulc's from their Surf Collection, and I'm just in love with this rich autumn-appropriate colour (Biking Red/Port Royal).




We ate at one of our new favourites: Fresh. We were unadventurous and ordered our same meals as last time, knowing what we loved. It was crowded, but we managed to steal a table that had just been cleared outside, and enjoyed the shining sun on another beautiful autumn day.

Carrying around a busted pair of shoes begged the question: Should we just toss them in a garbage can, or throw them over a telephone wire? A comment that a friend made on the subject caused me to do a little personal research.

I quickly became immersed in a series of interesting articles on the meaning and symbolism of "shoefiti" (as it was termed by Ed Kohler) - which range from gang territory to memorial markers; a rite of passage to locations where illegal drugs are sold; a form of a meme; a proof of existence; or even as an alternative to graffiti.

I found beautiful photographs of shoes on wires. There is even a short documentary called The Mystery of Flying Kicks on the subject, which I recommend watching. I just found it difficult to find anyone of actual authority confirming or denying that it is an illegal act (I'm sure that if you were to toss your shoes over a telephone wire in front a police officer, he might not be happy about it).

"Shoefiti" is frowned upon by many as they see it either as an eyesore, a waste of tax payers dollars to be removed, or are fearful it may interfere with electrical wires. In Toronto, and other major cities, many pairs have remained on the same wires indefinitely until their shoelaces rotted away, neither causing harm or wasted dollars to anyone. It could be considered a form of litter, as the shoes eventually end up back on the ground.

In many articles that I read Toronto Police Detectives flippantly dismissed the gang-related connotations towards the shoes without a word on public vandalism. Meanwhile in LA, a special force has been vigilantly removing shoes due to a strong belief in the illegal drug or gang implications. In Minneapolis, a self-appointed patrol take it upon themselves to remove shoes, believing it is a sign of urban decay and lawlessness. Some use it a measure of time, a memory of a significant event, a reminder.

"Just the fact that you leave writing on a wall, or that you leave a shoe somewhere: You have proven to yourself that you exist."

I love the thoughts of Marcel Danesi, a Professor of Semiotics and Linguistic Anthropology at The University of Toronto, in Flying Kicks:
"Why [do] we search for meaning and why must we leave our mark? It is connected to memory - a kind of communal long-lasting memory. It's as if we live on through memory, and if you think in a certain sense - it's absolutely true. Just the fact that you leave writing on a wall, or that you leave a shoe somewhere: You have proven to yourself that you exist. What an interesting feature of humanity, even though it's kind of an illusion, isn't it? Unless you're a great artist that leaves your name in your works, we do disappear from communal memory. What a tragedy our condition is, isn't it?"
I am fascinated that what I had considered simply a whimsical, harmless act of ridding oneself of an old pair of footwear is a source of such controversy and mystery. To me, this is art - something that opens a discussion and can be interpreted in a multitude of ways, globally, negatively or positively.

If you ever see a pair of sneakers hanging in an alley off Spadina and Richmond, just know that they were hung there out of love.

Time enjoyed wasting is not wasted (Michigan Trip)

September 27, 2013



I can remember having one proper family vacation as a child - we stayed in a motel with a pool, which is what made it "proper." Even though we never ventured far from home as a family I never felt that I lacked experiences growing up - trips to museums, science centers, pageants, local live theatre, historical villages, wildlife habitats (and so on) kept me well-rounded.

Now, at the age of twenty-five, I've still never been on an airplane, and the furthest I've traveled is within my native country. I would love to travel a littler further from home one day, but for the time-being a weekend trip to anywhere-but-home serves as the perfect mini vacation.

A vacation is what you take when you can no longer take what you've been taking.
- Earl Wilson

This past weekend we took a trip with Nathan and Sacha to Michigan to visit Patricio's relatives. In comparison to our last visit (at the beginning of summer) we were quite inactive and spent most of our time indoors, or curled up on the couch in the evenings to watch movies or reality television.

A vacation is having nothing to do all day and all day to do it in.
- Robert Orben

As we were lazily spread out across the living room sofas and carpet one day, Aunt Monica read aloud an appropriate quote:

Time enjoyed wasting is not wasted.


We met the latest addition to the family: a beautiful four-month-old Australian Shepherd named Bandit. Those icy blues melt my heart. He reminded me of my cats in the way he would just flop down at our feet on his back, the international gesture for "rub my belly, please."

That man of mine travels everywhere with his skateboard.


How cute are Sacha's cropped polka dot jeans? I must have taken two dozen photos of them.



After church on Sunday we made a taco feast (mmmmm!).

When we visited Michigan earlier this year, we went kayaking every day (there's a private lake in the backyard). On our last day I went out in the two-person kayak as a last hurrah to summer. The sun was shining, and the moon was out - just perfect.


Sacha, giving her bling a little air.



A Gumby chew toy reverted me back to my childhood on a quick visit to a pet store. Patricio and I both have the fondest memories of watching The Gumby Show as children.

To say that I had fun with Gumby would be an understatement. I was giggling hysterically as he "photobombed" every single picture that I took.

Have a great weekend!

P.S. (To those who care:) We have (again) moved our date night to tomorrow, as I'll be helping with Home Suite Hope on Tuesdays for the next six weeks. After that, we'll be back on schedule!

Sunset on St. Lawrence

September 26, 2013


I am blessed to be surrounded by talented people, and I feel privileged (and pampered!) to occasionally work with them, even if just for fun (no delusional aspirations to be Canada's Next Top Model over here, folks)! As someone who ineptly applies barely-there make-up and has zero patience for "slippery Asian hair", being dolled up by more capable hands is quite a luxury.

Here are a few "in-between" photographs from a creative shoot at St. Lawrence Market I was part of this week with Emily Jones and Sacha Ulloa. Humour my vanity.


Emily Jones is a talented and enthusiastic natural-light photographer (and a lot of fun to work with). We had a couples session earlier this summer with her, which I'll eventually post. You can view a few other images from this shoot on her blog.

My closest friend (and sister-in-law), Sacha Ulloa, is a Toronto-based professional make-up artist with an eye for detail and a natural skill when it comes to beauty. Due to my allergies and skin sensitivities, Sacha uses natural make-up on me - here I'm wearing a combination of Aveda, Physicians Formula, and Sante products.




Thanks to Timeless Apparel for loaning us this seriously cozy vintage Shaw Coaching Staff t-shirt and Levi's boyfriend jeans.

It's not time to worry yet

September 20, 2013

It's been a hectic week - yesterday was my first evening at home since Sunday. A makeshift closet photo shoot with Emily Jones, childcare for Home Suite Hope, covering for a sick coworker, and dealing with three weeks of laundry have kept me away.

All of this busyness means that we haven't had a chance to have a Tuesdate or any date this week, and all this back to (pre)school sickness has caught up to me just in time for the weekend. I'm now nursing a cold even as I pack to go to Michigan to visit family, hoping there's enough wild oregano oil, lemon juice and ginger to alleviate my suffering before we leave.

I've been reflecting the past few weeks about how settled into my marriage and life I've felt this year. Maybe it's because Patricio finished his studies (for now), or that he started a full-time job, or that I'm not the "breadwinner" anymore on my meagre earnings (I keep asking myself "how the heck were we scraping by?"). Suddenly our way of life seems open to more possibilities - a car, a new apartment, Patricio's skateboard company, further education (for me), a house, a family? It is scary and exciting all at once, and I'm surprised I'm not panicking yet.

It's not time to worry yet.
- Harper Lee

I used to worry about everything, to a paralyzing degree. Nowadays I am still not immune to the concerns of every day of life, or the sudden 3 am panic to the depressing amount left in my cheqing account, or the menace of "the future." I can worry myself in circles and bury myself in a Cake-Boss-marathon-to-distract-me-from-my-problems as well as anyone else.

But from the time that Patricio and I were preparing to get married, I have found great peace in knowing that if I surrender just a little control, just a little of that anxiety that we're all so good at clinging to, and instead focus on what's important... it will all work out

So here's to a happy weekend. And remember:

It will all work out.
- President Gordon B. Hinckley

Tuesdate: Archie's & Sidewalk Chalk

September 12, 2013


We've been eyeing Archie's Ice Dream & Jelly Beans since it opened a few months ago. The colourful 50s reminiscent soda pop/ice cream parlour/burger shop wasn't originally meant to be Archie themed, but when community members began to bring in Archie paraphernalia the shop quickly took shape - the walls now feature framed Archie comics, there's a "life-size" Archie cut out, and the "waitresses" wear cheerleader uniforms with either Betty or Veronica (dependant on hair colour, of course) stitched on the front.

Confession: I still have a box full of all my old Archie comics. Is it okay that, even as a brunette, I always rooted for Betty? I just thought she was a nicer person!

For our Tuesdate this week Patricio thought we ought to stop peeking in through the windows of Archie's each time we walk by, and find out, once and for all, if we could eat anything there. We were greeted by the manager, who enthusiastically prepared a veggie dog and veggie burger when we said that we were vegan, thoroughly scrubbing down the grill before cooking them (two big thumbs up). We admired the wide selection of Pop Shoppe sodas and jelly beans, and split a Lime Ricky.


Afterwards, we took a walk around the block. Patricio unexpectedly pulled a box of sidewalk chalk from his backpack and, after finding a quiet street, we doodled until it was dark. As a preschool teacher, and a former nanny, I've done my fair share of sidewalk chalk art in my adulthood - it always leaves me feeling a bit nostalgic and child-like.




I'm going to miss these long summer days in a couple of weeks. We've had a truly memorable summer, and I'm sad to see it go. I tend to be a winter shut-in, so fingers crossed this hot autumn weather lasts - and also that I can brave the inevitable cold to even leave the house for date night. At least I'll be able to wear all of my summer-neglected sweaters again.

Here's to nine more calendar days of summer!

Weekend Collective: September 7th-8th

September 11, 2013

We often spend our weekends with my brother-in-law, and his wife (who also happens to be my best friend from youth). Just this past weekend we went to the 29th Annual Toronto Vegetarian Food Festival on the harbour front. We didn't stay long this year or take many photographs due to the rain that day - I regret not taking a moment to take cover from the rain to get a shot of The Simpsons-like pink donut from Tori's Bakeshop.

Here's a few.
Sacha loves the rain, and went outside to dance in it!
Handsome brothers.
Have a lovely week!